A proposal of attention to Domestic Violence

 

Effects of the domestic violence

The adult people of today, generally, have a stressed life; they live worried and busy because of their job or the lack of the same, conflicts with their neighbors, relatives, but mainly for those with their couple. In spite of having most of the time occupied with different tasks, their thoughts go from those conflicts that make them feel bad, to the difficulties of having a positive relationship with the pair. But even most worrisome is that tense relationship with the children. Nevertheless, there is another very important aspect that absorbs their thoughts: the not so positive memories from childhood.

 

They tend to remember what made them suffer, the blows, insults, contempt, abandonment, negligence and humiliations on behalf of their brothers, grandparents, uncles, teachers, but mainly, the great damage that their parents caused to them. They have perfectly engraved in their memory that offensive tone of voice, that terrible glance as if they were hated, the indifference which they were dealt with, and now all that is active, it is present and it still hurt them as if it had just happened.

 

It would seem to be that all those experiences and suffering have been in vain, so now they are those who damage their children. Although in many cases they are invaded by guilt and they regret for having mistreated them, but the abuse happens once and again and they do not realize that they are tattooing a new generation which will also remember it with the same sadness and incredulity. Even if they immensely love their children, they are able to harm them, and consequently the parents worries about the behavior of their offspring (low scholastic efficiency, aggressiveness, addictions, etc.) without doing anything against the problem and yet, without accepting the responsibility.

 

These stories are very common nowadays, but it is necessary not to ignore that the conflicts lived by a pair are suffered by the children as well, and have also serious repercussions in society.

 

The interfamilial violence “affects to the general population but more directly to the children and women, without distinction of socioeconomic groups or educational level.

 

This use of violence on women at their home comes, in great measure, from the conjugal pair. The men who attack them usually make use of blows, threats, insults, prohibitions, among others means, which in extreme cases derives to threats of death and homicide. Infantile abuse, however, is most frequently managed by the mother, and followed by the father, step parents, grandparents. [1]

 

In 2003 the "Secretaría de Salud y el Instituto Nacional de Salud Públic" (Secretary of Health and the National Institute of Public Health) in Mexico, presented their first National Poll on Violence against Women, “which estimates that one of each five Mexican women older than 15 years has suffered some form of physical, psychological, economical or sexual violence from its pair. Other exercises consider that in Mexico, 12 thousand women die every year by cause of violence. [2]

 

According to the INEGI (National Institute of Statistics, Geography and Informatics) more than 50% of women between 15 to 34 years old, with resident pair at home “have lived at least one violent incident in the last twelve months” (in 2003). [3]

 

The interfamilial violence has become a serious and unstoppable social problem that has exceeded the institutions. "A recent survey in the Mexican Capital City, released by the “Instituto Nacional de Estadísticas Geografía e Informática" (INEGI), shows that the interfamilial violence takes place in 30.4% of Mexican homes - almost one of each three of them in the form of emotional mistreat, intimidation, physical or sexual abuse. The emotional mistreat occurs in almost every home and the sexual abuse in 1.1% of them. 14.4% of these homes look for some sort of aid, although the 72.2% awaits its repetition. [4]

 

This factor also generates alterations in the emotional, physical and mental state of who incites it and, of course, to the one who receives it. It has been already mentioned that a violence generator is necessarily a suffering person, which undergoes through serious alterations in its way to perceive reality. It is frequently angry, unsatisfied, frustrated and all that relies on the people who he or she considers to be weaker, and those who are thought to be under its authority. On the other hand, it is very common for the victims or receivers of violence to suffer of low self-esteem, sadness, depression, anxiety, fear, hypersensitivity, desire to die or kill and they can become aggressors as well (when the mother receives violence by her pair, she generally becomes the aggressor of her children and them with their brothers or schoolmates).

 

The interfamilial violence also affects on the economy, when an adult is aggrieved, it frequently misses to its job because of health problems (loss of appetite, injuries, headaches, tiredness, insomnia, among others), it is easily irritated with its companions and in addition its performances at work become deficient.

 

One of the most alarming consequences, and which are not often leagued to it are attempts of suicide and suicides. According to the INEGI, the main cause of registered suicides in the country, from 2002 to 2004, are by family chagrins. [5]

 

In their statistics of mortality, in the death percentage by successful suicides, respecting to the total of violent deaths in the country from 2001 to 2003, exists a slight increase (2001 7.4%, and 2003 7.8%) of the 0.4%. Nevertheless, in 3 years the percentage of men who committed suicide is major than that of women. In 2003 the difference was increased in a 1.8% (women 6.4% and men 8.2%).[6]

 

Unfortunately the greater percentage of deaths by suicide is among young people from 15 to 24 years old and also unfortunate is that this percentage has increased from 1990 to 2003 increasing from 5% to 12.9%. [7]

 

When a family lives violence every single member is affected, each one of them in a particular way suffers and indicates its consequences: distrust, fear, bitterness and loneliness are common elements in interfamilial relationships. Gradually, the family is disintegrated, the children try to be as less as possible at “home”, the affection is lost and often they continue living together by economical interests. And when the children are not generally in their home, they look for the company of other young people who live similar situations, look for refuge in drugs, alcohol, delinquency and other activities which damage their physical and mental integrity.

 

 

 

NOTES

 

1. INEGI

www.inegi.gob.mx

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2. Editorial de EL UNIVERSAL.

Miércoles 26 de noviembre de 2003. Primera sección.

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3. INEGI: Encuesta Nacional sobre Dinámica de las Relaciones en el Hogar.
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4. UNICEF

www.unicef.org/mexico/programas/violencia.htm

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5. INEGI: Estadísticas sobre suicidios registrados por entidad federativa de ocurrencia según causas 2002, 2003 y 2004.

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6. INEGI

www.inegi.gob.mx

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7. INEGI: Estadísticas de Mortalidad.

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